Frequently Asked Questions

Honestly? Fair question.

The tet a tet Upper Body Pillow was designed to be used a couple of different ways depending on what your body needs.

For chest support + separation:

Hug the curved middle section against your chest with the points resting near your stomach and below your neck.

For shoulder & arm support:

Hug the flat face of the pillow and wrap your arms around it, allowing the top points to support your shoulders.

And if you find your own weirdly perfect way to use it? Share the deets with kadie@letstetatet.com! We want to hear it all - there's no such thing as TMI here.

See exactly how we like to use it here.

Nope.

The Upper Body Pillow was designed around the female body, but there's no minimum boob requirement.

Fuller chest? Great.

Smaller chest? Also great.

Changing body? Yep.

Mostly here because your shoulder is complaining? Welcome.

The pillow's shape and firmness are designed to provide support around your chest and shoulders no matter what size or shape your "girls" are, and it's ready to be your sidekick even if no ta-ta talk is involved.

We've had plenty of people tell us they love using their between their knees, behind their hip, as lumbar support in the car, under their arm for recovery, behind their neck for tension. You do you, baby-boo. But do tell us about it, please. We get so excited to hear about the new ways you guys are loving it.

Absolutely.

We've heard from women who use it while:

• Recovering from surgery - reconstructive, cosmetic, and everything in between. The Upper Body pillow is that firm yet gentle hug you need close to your chest while you recover.
• Nursing - NOT as a nursing pillow, but for new moms who need some self care during that time. Squished boobs can lead to mastitis, and that's the LAST thing you need to be dealing with.
• Watching TV - she keeps you propped, won't fight for the remote, and will never spoil the ending of your favorite shows.
• Traveling - she's compact enough to fit in most carry-on luggage!
• Getting acupuncture - a little hug to hold you in place while you wait for the magic to happen
• Driving - the lumbar support is *chef's kiss*
• Getting comfortable during different stages of life - Monthly hormonal aches, menopausal hot flashes, pregnancy making old sleeping positions unbearable, etc. She's your girl.

It's small enough to move around the house without requiring a moving truck.

Your bed is not its only habitat.

Oh, yeah.

And this is where the magic happens.

The Upper Body Pillow is made with a proprietary memory foam blend designed to provide firm, supportive structure while still having enough give to feel comfortable against your body.

If you're expecting a giant squishy marshmallow, this isn't her.

She's got a backbone.

The short answer: our proprietary blend of memory foam.

The longer answer: we tested a whole lot of foam and fiber combinations before landing on a blend that gives tet a tet's Upper Body Pillow its signature balance of firm support and enough give to actually be comfortable.

Translation?

It's supportive without feeling like you're hugging a brick.

Which, for the record, was not the goal.

Nothing!

We love a regular pillow. She's been there for us.

But a traditional pillow wasn't designed to support the specific relationship between your chest, shoulders, and top arm while side sleeping. And it definitely was not created to address the physical changes that come along with the crazy transitions our bodies go through over the years.

The Upper Body Pillow was.

Its very specific shape, firmness, and size, were all thoughtfully, intentionally designed with those exact changes in mind.

Think of it as a purpose-built pillow instead of making a regular pillow do a job she did not apply for.

Because we didn't think your pillow needed to take up an entire zip code.

tet a tet gives you targeted upper-body support in a much more compact shape, so you get the support you want without sacrificing half the bed.

It's basically the “I need something to hug, but don't want to wrestle a bulky body pillow and have another reason to wake up sweaty” solution.

You're welcome.

You can absolutely use your own pillowcase.

But we made ours for a reason.

The tet a tet Mulberry Silk Pillowcase is made from the Highest Grade 6A Mulberry Silk and specifically sized and designed to work with the shape of the Upper Body Pillow.

The silk gives you that smooth, breathable feel against your skin, while the pillowcase's fit and slip were designed to let you move comfortably with the pillow.

So:

Can you use your own? Yep.

Do we think ours is worth it and truly enhances the functionality of the Upper Body Pillow? Also yep.

We're a little biased. But we've done the testing.

If you're a side sleeper who has ever thought:

“Why does my shoulder hurt?”

“Where am I supposed to put this arm?”

“Why are my boobs suddenly involved in this sleeping arrangement?”

...then probably.

tet a tet's Upper Body Pillow was made specifically for side sleepers who want more support around their chest, shoulders and upper body without bringing a giant body pillow into the relationship.

It's especially helpful if you:

• Sleep mostly on your side
  
• Wake up with sore, collapsed shoulders or a numb arm
  
• Don't know where to put your top arm
  
• Want some space between your breasts while you sleep
• Are suddenly waking up at 3am with hot flashes and a sticky, sweaty chest
  
• Love the idea of a body pillow but do not want one taking up 70% of your bed
  
• Are experiencing changes in your body and suddenly your old pillow situation isn't cutting it anymore
  

And no, you do not need a certain cup size, age, or life stage to use it. Your body just needs to want a little more support.

Currently, we ship to the continental United States.

Your pillow will be shipped out as quickly as possible, so that it can immediately begin its very important new career as your favorite bed accessory.

Not in the continental United States? Shoot us an email to hello@letstetatet.com so we can prioritize your area when it's time to expand!

We offer free shipping on orders above $75.

As soon as your order ships, we'll send tracking information to the email address you used at checkout.

Click the tracking link and you'll be able to follow your pillow's journey from our hands to your bed.

Yes, refreshing the tracking page 14 times is completely normal. And yes, your pillow is so freaking excited to meet you too!

We know. Buying a new kind of pillow can feel like a bit of a gamble.

Because the tet a tet Upper Body Pillow is an intimate product that comes into close contact with your body, we can only accept returns for items that arrive damaged or have a manufacturing defect.

So before ordering, we recommend checking out our How to Use page and FAQ to make sure it is the right fit for you.

Have a question we're not answering?

Talk to us. We're real people over here.

Contact Us → hello@letstetatet.com

Your body changes. Your comfort needs change along with it. And sometimes the things that used to work for you suddenly don't anymore.

tet a tet's solutions were designed to adapt to changing bodies and different comfort needs, giving you supportive options as your body and routines evolve.

No matter what stage of life you're in, the goal is the same: to help you get comfortable and stay comfortable.